Dating and Divorce: What to Keep in Mind

 Posted on February 02, 2013 in Divorce

Nowadays divorces are so common that there is a pretty good chance that your date has been divorced. However, it is not necessarily a problem to date someone who has been divorced many times, says a recent article in the Chicago Tribune. If the dating is only casual, there is probably no issue, but if you are looking for a more committed relationship, it may be worthwhile to pay more attention to your date's relationship history.

Research has shown that people who have divorced multiple times are more likely to have characteristics and emotional issues that make it difficult to maintain long-term relationships, according to psychologist Holly Parker. Even a short-term relationship with a narcissist can be emotionally challenging. It may be a good idea to find out how the marriages came to end, what the person learned about the divorce process, what he thinks about future marriage, and what kind of relationship he has with his ex or exes to understand how things could go with you.

Generally, it is important to take into account how a divorced person has processed his or her divorce, and whether the person has learned not to repeat their past mistakes. If a person has divorced more than once, they may have unresolved issues or have problems choosing the right kind of partner. Parker mentions a few signs to be watchful for: the person you are spending time with is distant and does not express his or her emotions. He or she blames exes for the relationship problems and does not take responsibility, is self-centered and does not care about your needs and does not share his or her feelings.

Whatever the reasons for your divorce may be, you will want a knowledgeable divorce lawyer on your side. If you are considering divorce, contact an experienced divorce attorney in Oakbrook, Illinois today.