Divorce is the second most stressful life event, according to Holmes and Rahe Social Readjustment Scale. Regardless of how stressful the marriage is, and how many fights both parties had to endure, the act of divorcing could be just as difficult, if not more so. And the court divorce is just the beginning—getting a social life started again after the dust has settled can, for some people, be where the real work begins. According to the Chicago Tribune, divorce is “one of the worst times to isolate yourself.” The Tribune cites that the Yale Medical Group has proven that “social interaction improves both physical and mental well-being,” and while it may feel like it’s best to close the doors and be alone, it’s best to keep a positive outlook and make an attempt to return your life to normalcy.
The first step, according to the Tribune, is to establish a routine for yourself as a single person. “This can be as simple as having a meal with a friend or walking the dog with a neighbor. It is important to maintain social relationships and adjust to the new energy of being single instead of part of a couple.” This is especially important for new divorcees who have been married for a long time and haven’t been alone for many years. Keeping friends and family in the loop is crucial.
Another important step is to “find your passion”—an activity, hobby, or class that you may have been interested in before marriage and that took a back seat to the marriage. Not only will this bring on new relationships with different people, outside of the social group inhabited by you and your ex, but also can provide a “needed sense of belonging.”
Before figuring out your social steps after divorce, of course, you’ll need to take on the divorce calmly and as simply as possible. This can’t be done alone. Contact an experienced Chicago-area divorce attorney today.
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