Theories behind Increased Divorce Rate in 2nd and 3rd Marriages

 Posted on February 11, 2013 in Child Custody

Divorces are very common in first marriages as statistics show that 1 of 2 marriages while end in divorce. Yet the rates are even higher for second and third marriages, 67% and 73% respectively.

There are a multitude of reasons why those who get divorced have a higher chance of divorcing again. There are emotional explanations such as baggage and commitment fears from previous marriages. It is hard to stick with a marriage if you have experiences from a failed marriage. Every slight issue becomes a sign that points to an inevitable divorce. Rushing from marriage to marriage can exacerbate these fears by not allowing people to grow from their experiences.

Another motive behind increasing divorces is increased self-sufficiency for each gender. Women have become more financially independent and men are more capable domestically. When gender roles blend together, people may not feel the need to stay in bad marriages. They may crave independence that is new to both genders.

The most interesting theory is that the bonds of family are not as present in second and third marriages. First marriages are when most people have children. There is less of an obligation to stay together for the children if they are step children. It can also be said that the presence of stepchildren can undermine a second or third marriage. Trust is not so easy to cultivate as a stepparent and most relationships remain strained in blended families.

If you are considering a divorce for the first, second, or third time, think about what could be different the next time around. A divorce allows you the time to think about your relationships and make the changes that you want. Contact an experienced divorce attorney in Oak Brook to discuss the first steps in the divorce process.