Keeping Your Sanity after the Divorce

 Posted on September 27, 2012 in Divorce

There are so many myths, contradictions and clichés when it comes to the subject of divorce. What do you say to a friend or acquaintance when you hear about the pending divorce proceedings? The first thing that comes to mind for most people is to say, "I'm sorry." Have you ever thought about why we say that? A divorce may be a good thing, closing chapter to a saga that was not meant to be.

Divorces are not always as dramatic and ugly as the ones that we hear about on television or in the papers. They are not always worthy of being made into a lifetime movie. However, one thing is always true about divorce: it is a change. How you choose to deal with it can make all the difference.

Many people report having "lost themselves" in the midst of trying to be the perfect spouse and parent during the marriage, and when the marriage is over and the children are visiting with the other parent, they are lonely and don't know what to do. This is the very feeling that can lead to destructive behaviors if not treated with care. Use this time to launch a mission to find yourself. Find out the things that you like to do, new hobbies or interests. You may have spent years caring for others; this is the time to be selfish. Spend a lazy day reading, gardening or even painting a picture.

Divorce is never easy on the emotions. In a delicate situation such as this, you need someone who has your best interests in mind. What you need is a qualified, experienced and empathetic Illinois divorce attorney at your side. Your lawyer will protect your interests and assets so that you can start a brand new life without worry. Remember, you do not have to be a millionaire to need a great divorce attorney.