Divorced couples rarely remarry the same person again, according to a recent article in the Chicago Tribune. Professor emeritus Nancy Kalish from California State University conducted a study which consisted of 1,001 reunited couples from around the world. Only about 6 percent of the couples mentioned they married, divorced and remarried the same person. However, 72 percent of reunited couples stayed together, especially if their separation had happened at a young age.
One reunited couple, Jim and Danielle Dolente, got a divorce after Jim cheated on his wife. Despite the divorce, they never stopped caring for each other, and even though they had new relationships they wanted to get back together. Jim Dolente admits that he should not have cheated on Danielle, but nowadays the couple agrees that his affair was actually just a symptom of other problems. “If people want to remarry, it’s important to be aware of what the issues were and be in a better place to deal with them,” Jim said.
Relationship experts advise that a couple needs to change and grow, whatever the reasons for the divorce, and they recommend professional help in dealing with relationship problems. “You need to change yourself, and your mate needs to change herself, or you’ll simply repeat the problems,” says relationship coach Laurie Puhn. “You need to go into the marriage a second time and understand you’re entering a second marriage. It’s not the same as the first one.”
Sometimes, a divorce may be the only solution to a problematic relationship. There are a number of legal matters to consider when divorcing. These matters are best handled by compassionate and experienced attorneys. If you are considering filing for divorce, please contact a highly skilled divorce attorney in DuPage County today.